Tips on how you can both take part in planning your wedding day
Planning your wedding together is a great step in helping the two of you work toward a common goal. It is also the beginning of you navigating through life together. When you begin the process of planning your wedding, you are dealing with a few things immediately. These things are money, budgeting, critical decisions, and the cohesiveness of two families.
Quite a bit of the emphasis is put on the wedding day, but we want to advise you to not get caught up in all of the details and the fluff of what is “supposed to be” for you. It is your love story, with the keyword being love. Taking on responsibilities in the planning process that will allow you to lean on your strengths is a great start into this lifelong journey together. Below we have shared what we usually see our couples do.
So, who does what?
Her: dress, flowers, & planner
The choosing of your wedding dress, the bridesmaids’ dresses, and the flowers you care most about are naturally for the bride. Most times, we see the hiring of the wedding planner to be the responsibility of the bride as well. The planner is concerned with every single detail of a wedding. It is the planner’s job to help keep a bride centered when dealing with the rules and traditions as it relates to weddings. That isn’t to say the groom won’t be as in tune. But most guys aren’t going to deep dive into the details like a bride will. My husband Darius (and the other part of the two person machine) often says the woman deals in subtitles or the details of the story and guys live in the headlines or overall point. I have agree with him. If you take on the dresses, flowers, and the planner, you have a nice hefty amount of tasks to adhere to.
Him: tux, DJ, & transportation
The tux has always been given to the groom as the only task. We disagree with that hugely. There are many things for him to be involved in. The getaway car as they exit the reception, the DJ especially since he may want to choose his special music as he removes her garter, the types of the groomsmen boutonnieres he wants his fellas to wear, and much more. His insight and opinion matter in more ways than he may know.
Together: colors, food, & cake
Whether or not the wedding is an expense that you will both share, you should definitely walk the road to the altar together. The win at the end of this journey is absolutely the marriage. The additional reward is seeing that what the two of you put together has resulted in a beautifully planned wedding day. Truly, if you can accomplish the planning of a wedding together, the sky is the limit!
Until next time…
be sweet & happy planning!
(photo credit: Simone Elise Events and Incredibly Wee Photography)
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