This post is a continuation from a series based on the things we suggest you avoid when planning your wedding. This post is specifically for the grooms preparing to walk down the aisle. We know the guys can sometimes get a bad rep. People automatically assume that you are just supposed to show up in a tux or suit and just get married, but you can do more than that. As Darius likes to say often, you started this party. It can only be true that you have a few things to contribute to the planning of the wedding day. We want you to be as prepared as possible because we know this is how you are sure to fully enjoy your wedding day.
So, here are 7 things to avoid as the groom.
1. Last minute groomsmen gifts
You absolutely want to thank your best man and groomsmen for being there for you during such a momentous occasion in your life. Thank them with a gift that is considerate. It can be monogram cuff links, a nice tie, suspenders, an executive pen, or something else meaningful. Show them you really appreciate their being there. Don’t get him a gift card to Cracker Barrel…unless that is what you know he would really want.
2. Changing your hair cut
If you have been getting the same cut or style for years, don’t start being adventurous on your wedding day. There is nothing worse than deciding to get a different haircut, which is something your bride is not used to seeing, and seeing her shock displayed in pictures you will have forever. If you want to try the different hair cut or style out, do it no later than the month before your wedding.
3. Changing up your cologne
It is a great idea to have a special scent for the day of your wedding. Be sure to test it by wearing it weeks in advance to make sure it fits your body chemistry. It would be horrible to find out at your wedding that the scent dies after 2 hours, that it smells horrible when you sweat, or that it made a rash appear on your skin. Plan in advance for this. It will pay off.
4. A vigorous workout just before the wedding
Most guys want to run off a few pounds or get cut before their wedding day. Believe me, that is absolutely normal behavior. Just don’t go too hard the week before. You don’t want to be so sore you can’t dance the night away. Start intensifying your workout routine 6 months out from your day. Then scale back the month of the wedding, with plans to rest the week before. Trust us, you will want to be ready and injury or pain free that day.
5. Not getting something special for the bride
Something special for the bride on wedding day is always a great idea. Don’t wait until the last minute to think of what that should be. A special note in her shoe box, a surprise gift waiting in the getaway car, or something else really nice that makes her day even more special. Make this day one she will not want to ever forget, and be intentional.
6. No check list for your stuff
Make a check list for things you have to do and for the items you need to bring with you to the church or facility. Make the list weeks in advance so that you can add things to it that you are not thinking about in the moment. Also, have someone else check behind you. There is nothing worse than arriving at the church or facility, and realizing you do not have what you need because you forgot to pack it.
7. Waiting to get your attire squared away
Get your tux, suit, or rental all squared away no later two months before the wedding. If you are getting tailored items made, check with the clothier as soon as it becomes a thought on the time needed for your items. Plan and execute. She is going to be gorgeous and you have to look just as good. Oh, and be sure what you are wearing is stemmed and ready to roll.
We are in the business of making people happy. We also know that “a happy wife is a happy life” is not just a phrase. If you show up ready with these agenda items as a start as to how you will be helping to plan the wedding day, you score automatic brownie points with your soon to be Mrs. We want you to shine. Now, go on and do your thang!
Until next time…
be sweet & happy planning!
(photo credit: Aneris Photography and Simone Elise Events)
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