This post is dedicated to wedding guests. It is for those of you who have been invited to attend the wedding of your family member or close friend, and are excited to witness their magical union. This is just a message to assist the couple with what they really want to say. We are going to say to you what they really want you to hear.
When you get an invitation in the mail, it is addressed to the persons who are invited. There are, however, occasions when you are given an opportunity to bring a plus one. In this instance, it will be clearly stated next to your name and again on the RSVP card. But if it does not give that option, it is probably not what the couple wants. It is nothing against you, so do your best to not take it personal. But there are several reasons as to why you should not just simply bring who you want to hang out with to their wedding.
Specific Head Count
Weddings can be expensive, and every person invited is an added amount to the overall cost of the wedding. Because the couple is more than likely paying for the wedding, they have to be careful with how many people they invite. If their attempt is to not spend a certain amount of money, they may not be able to give you the option of a plus one. If you bring someone who was not expected, they may not have a meal to eat. What if you aren’t the only person who has decided to do this? Can you imagine being a part of the chaos taking place while the happy couple prepares to party with you?
It’s Rude
Did you catch the last part of the first point made in this post? Causing a bit of chaos is unfair to the couple who thought enough of you to invite you to their wedding. It is not okay. It takes the vendors who were hired to take care of them away to take care of you. We know this sounds dramatic, but these are things that actually happen in an attempt to be sure these unplanned incidents aren’t as obvious. Also, just a small note. Asking the bride or the groom randomly if it is okay to bring whoever it is you want to bring is still rude. Most times they are going to feel obligated to say yes. Who wouldn’t? You put them on the spot!
Adult Only Reception
If the person getting married has decided that they want an adult only reception, that is truly their prerogative. When you are planning a wedding, you and your fiancé are planning according to your wants and needs. That is what the person who has added you to their wedding guests list is doing. They may have plans that do not include children. They may be planning to do adult things that night and do not have the time to cater to your children’s eyes. Assume they are a kindergarten teacher and have to tend to 5-year-olds all of the time. Don’t they deserve to avoid them during their own wedding reception.
Now we have shared with you what most couples don’t want to have to verbally address with you. Most feel it should be understood, and it should. The venue, the food, the cake, it all costs. They took the time to place your name on the list of people they wanted to be a part of their wedding day. You should be honored. But please for them, abide by the rules.
Until next time…
be sweet & happy planning!
~Tish
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