Making sure your groom feels appreciated in the planning process
Most guys aren’t really into weddings. The first and most repeated statement from the groom is usually “this is her day.” Well, we don’t completely agree. However, majority of the details related to wedding planning are not things most men understandably concern themselves. But we want them to be involved nonetheless. Darius loves to remind our grooms of the fact that they got this party started. That usually gets the job done.
Dragging him around from store to store, making him sit in meeting after meeting, or just non-stop talk over breakfast, lunch, and dinner about nothing but weddings, can be a bit much for your guy. But we have a pretty neat suggestion for you. One of the sweetest gestures you could ever offer to your guy would be to create a day (or two) throughout the planning process where you make it all about him. Great idea, right! Give him his very own special day. You can even name it after him. We have 5 suggestions on how you can make it all about him.
1. Send him to the spa
Most men don’t quite know how to relax, especially if they are financially responsible for their wedding. If you send him to a place where he can sit and soak all of his cares away for 30 minutes to an hour, he may be able to listen a little longer to you as you explain the differences between pinks, fuchsias, and purples.
2. Spoil him with male grooming
So, let’s just say that the first option is just too much for your man. He is not going to completely cooperate with a soak at a spa. Picture his smile after receiving a nice haircut, a simple facial, a nice clean shave, and maybe a simple mani-pedi, all scheduled at his favorite place by his favorite girl. You know he isn’t going to do all of that for himself. If you schedule it and surprise him with it as a gift, and later take him out as arm candy, it will make his day.
3. Plan a guy’s night
Call 3 to 4 of his closest friends, purchase all of his favorite game day goodies, some cards, and dominoes, and leave him alone. Wedding talk is not the guys’ thing. Imagine if you were thrust-ed into the world of sports, home repair projects, or even mechanics, and you couldn’t say “nope, not interested.” Well, that’s what he is dealing with now that he is having a wedding. Give him a break and disappear. He still loves you, and will love you even more after you pull this shindig off.
4. Take him on a shopping spree
Standing in the middle of a store watching him try on 15 of his favorite ball caps (to purchase 1 or 2, of course) or creating a “home depot run… just because” can go a very long way. Your guy may not say it much, but he could spend hours walking up and down the aisles of a store centered around what we women don’t understand. If you take the keys, tell him to hop in the passenger’s seat, and drive him to this place of wonder without alerting him of what your plans are, you will hold the award for “Best Gift Ever!” He will bring this up for years to come. You just watch, and thank us later.
5. K.I.S.S. (keep it simple & sweet)
Cook his favorite meal! If you can’t cook, then this one is definitely worth attempting (with guidance and help). He will love that you went the extra mile, that you made it all about him, and that you gave him a night off from wedding talk…which means you can’t talk wedding talk!
We can almost guarantee that if you make it about him a couple of times throughout the planning process, that he will do his best to make your day as beautiful as you will be.
Until next time…
be sweet & happy planning!
(photo credit: Simone Elise Events and Aneris Photography)
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